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The “To-do” List–The 4 Steps that Transformed my Life

“If you want to make God laugh tell Him about your plans” ~ Woody Allen

I often share this particular story about one of the most difficult times in my life when I’m teaching a workshop or speaking at a live event. This experience isn’t something I’m proud of, but it was the catalyst that has landed me to where I am today—as a spiritual teacher, best-selling author, speaker and one of the happiest people I know. Looking back on this situation with the wisdom I’ve acquired since then, I could’ve handled this ordeal quite a bit differently—-and hindsight is always 20/20. So as my journey continues towards understanding how the spiritual laws of the Universe continue to govern our existence, I can honestly say that a Higher Power is generous when providing valuable experiences required to awaken our hearts, connect with our internal wisdom and heal our soul if we choose to do so.

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As long as you’re breathing, you’re perpetually learning, growing, healing and expanding into a deeper Consciousness.  Each path is unique— and within your personal journey into discovering who you are, your heart and soul will be provided with unwavering strength and the courage to live your highest expression when you fully allow Guidance to lead you on a moment to moment basis. Your life will either expand or contract based upon the consistency of your thoughts and the choices you’ll make. As a wise teacher once mentioned to me when I was seeking spiritual solutions amid utter confusion, “Take advice that works for you and leave the rest. This is your life.”

What’s your Story??

We all have a “story” and there is value in your story because your story has assembled the life you’re living today; whether it be good, bad or the ugly. So in relying my personal thoughts, and with the utmost respect and humility, “You may not have been dealt the ideal ‘hand of cards’ throughout your life, but you do get to choose how you wish to play them from this day forward.” You can either use your history as a stepping stone to cultivate your success or you can permit your past to greatly influence your relationships, your career and your overall state of emotional health and well-being. History has the tendency to repeat itself; and unless you take the time to reflect, contemplate and heal; yes heal THYSELF, chances are, you will unconsciously fall back into habitual patterns of self-sabotage. It’s one thing to become cognizant of your behaviors and it’s another to connect with the seat of your soul and heal your life. “To know yourself is to heal Thyself.”

 

My Story: It’s time to “wake up!”

As I was unconsciously moving through the motions of life; unbeknownst to me, the Universe had other plans….

“I was driven to the edge of self-destruction only to awaken to the realization that the key to happiness, peace and success exists in who I decide to become.”

For 3 1/2 years, I was in a relationship with someone who was my greatest teacher. I learned everything that I wanted within a partnership and everything I didn’t. And then the day came when my soul was sick and tired of being sick and tired, and my life warranted a Divine intervention.

No doubt about it, I was forced to confront mastering the lesson of “Letting Go”—of EVERYTHING. I had NO THING in the external world that proved I was or would be successful, ever again. My circumstances were: the loss of my business, my pets, (except Trigger, my horse) and my relationship–all of which died (literally and figuratively) within a few months of each other and I was forced to practice a central concept in the Buddhist philosophy known as detachment.

As I was getting into the bathtub one morning my eyes caught my body’s reflection in mirror….and I stopped. I hesitated because it dawned on me that the image I was witnessing felt as if I was looking at a complete stranger. That’s right. It was my face, but somehow, someway, I wondered “Who is that person?” It was apparent that I’d forgotten who I was, what I stood for and how to speak my truth until…..

While sitting in the tub I began to feel a roaring fire beginning to brew in the pit of my stomach. My gut was twisting and turning and within minutes I felt myself being launched out of the water. It felt as if I were being pushed and the words that I had suppressed for years required a voice. I was on a mission to say something, not knowing what, but found myself marching upstairs to have a conversation with my boyfriend (now my ex.) I looked at him and said, “I’m leaving.” Short and simple, right? And he replied, “Great. I’ll help you pack your bags.” (Please allow me to add, this “grand finale” happened after years of endless arguments, tears and heartache. We were both finally aware that our relationship wasn’t meant to “go the distance” and our time was up!)

With my car packed and $10 bucks to my name, I drove away from my house and thought to myself, “Where in the hell am I going to go now?” Sure, I could have chosen to make a few phone calls and ask for help from family and friends, but this time I needed to figure out these  “issues” on my own and refocus on my priorities; but first, re-identify what those were!

I was mad. Mad at myself. Mad at my partner, but more importantly, I was mad at God because I felt like He no longer loved me. I’m not going to lie. I threw a temper tantrum and began to cuss and swear like nobody’s business as I was driving towards the city park to pitch a tent and spend the night. Did this life altering choice mean I’d be living “homeless” for a day, a month or a year, perhaps? I didn’t know—- but I was willing to take my chances and pay the consequences.

As the reality of being “homeless” began to set in….

I started to cry uncontrollably…

I pulled my car over to the side of the road ..…

The tears continued…

And then…

The energy in the car began to change. It felt as if the world had stopped spinning. Perfect stillness. The “essence” was soothing, dense and extremely Present—and a sense of peace rushed over my entire body…

I re-started my car and proceeded to drive forward….

A few seconds later…

A powerful Force took control of my steering wheel….

And within minutes, I found myself parked in front of a house that looked familiar, but unsure of whose it was.…

I walked to the front door and knocked…

A woman answered. And to my surprise it was my very first client in my healing business who had always told me, “If I ever needed a place to hang my hat, I’d always be welcome in her home.”

So there I was, in her house, and beginning my life over again…(for the 3rd time)

Sitting in a room with two twin beds I began having a conversation with God. I asked, “What can I do to change my life?”

And these instructions were undeniably conveyed:

1. You are going to take total responsibly for healing yourself and your life.
2. You are going to make peace with your past. You are going to see everyone as your teacher    and consciously apply the wisdom you’ve gained from each experience.
3. You are going to be grateful for your life.
4. And then, you are going to write a book and share your experiences.

Ugh…right???

I replied, “I’ll do it, but I need proof that I’m actually on the ‘right’ path. So here’s my request:”

1.To have my book placed on the shelves in the local book stores and Mile Hi Church.
2. To be on the bestsellers list.
3. To get Dr. Wayne Dyer’s endorsement.

So from “this” place of total surrender and a willingness to listen and act, I was able to consciously rebuild my life from the ground -up and the inside- out.

Did the process of working on myself and writing a book happen overnight? Heck no! It was a course in demonstrating Love, compassion, forgiveness, and kindness to myself and others; and then I was given the opportunity to press the “RINSE & REPEAT” button and do it over again and again!

To this day, I’ve finally come to the understanding that the cycle of healing never ceases, but the process may become less arduous when putting your ego aside and allowing God to lead.

During my healing transformation, I spent a lot of time being alone and became discerning on how I shared my time and energy. I allowed myself to “work” through the myriad of emotions that demanded attention; and from that point I was made well aware that filling any void with a quick fix was nonsense.

I began to change my life through facing my fears and shedding the light on every single one of those suckers! It was no secret that the emotions hidden deep within my subconscious mind were keeping me distant from the “things” that I truly desired for myself—-happiness, peace and inner freedom. Truth be told, there wasn’t anything fun about confronting myself in the mirror, but since then, the rewards (internally & externally) have been priceless— AND my “3 goals” have been accomplished.

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So now, when a client comes into my office and says, “How do I change my life? My world is falling apart. My relationship is over. My business isn’t working,” whatever their story is— my response is, “Great. You are finally at a place in your life when you’re willing to listen to the sacred voice within your soul and honor yourself. Let’s get to work on healing YOU!”

So if you shall ever find yourself in the place of feeling “stuck” and/or hopeless and without a clue on where to begin, remember ….

We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” ~ Albert Einstein

Stop. Chill out. Command your mind to be silent. Breathe. It’s nearly impossible to hear Wisdom in the midst of chaos. And then…from a “space of calm,” ask for Guidance.

Trust that the Light will shine upon your next step…..

Be willing to take the next step…..

Namaste,

Angela:)

P.S. My new goals: (And being flexible with how I achieve them:))

  1. Publish children’s books: #TriggerTails …
  2. Complete my 2nd “inspirational” book…
  3. Continue to feel GOOD and BE Happy!!

BTW….Did I mention I want to meet Oprah, also!!??? 🙂

A Simple way to Write a Book…and make Miracles Happen!

I’m going to address a question that I frequently get asked as this question appears in my inbox at least 3 times per day and during all hours of the night 😬😬😬

The question is–> “How do you write a book?”

So here it is! I’m giving you everything that I know about this subject… Which isn’t much. So this post will be short and sweet! Writing a book is clearly not my forte but I figured out how to get it done… The hard way!!! (PS.. I’m not recommending this approach 110%😉)

But this is how I did it….

Step 1. One day I sat down, opened up my laptop and began typing…knowing that I was NOT going to stop until I was done. I refused to let myself “off the hook.” I held myself accountable, everyday.

Step 2. When I was finished writing the entire manuscript, I prayed about it, and asked God what to do next. And one night, I got out of bed at 3am and googled various words; including the word “editor.” And on page 5 of Google, I found someone who appeared as if he could help me…sent him an email…..and we were a match!!

Step 3. Found my cover designer on Craig’s list… (I prayed about it first, tho😉)

Step 4. Found a local publisher who put all of the “moving parts” together for me.

Step 5. Done! I’m off and running

That’s it!! Like I mentioned earlier, how I completed this project was definitely not the “norm” and possibly not for everyone. You will figure out which way works best for you 😊

In addition, if you’re mission is to write your first book, my advice would be to seek out a “writer’s coach” and follow a structured path. If they have a proven, successful track record, there is something to be said for that… Listening is good!

And finally …. Everyday, someone asks me how I got Dr. Wayne Dyer’s endorsement….

And my answer is quite simple. I prayed about it. The wisdom came to me on how to find his address, what to say, and what color of envelope to send it in… And when I dropped my book off at the post office it, I detached from the entire process. And two weeks later, I received an email from Dr. Dyer along with his endorsement, and he told me that when he came to Denver he wanted to meet me in person. That’s it!!!! This “entire thing” was Divinely guided. And it wasn’t because I knew someone who knew someone, or I bought my way “there”.

I hope this post was inspiring and maybe even motivated you to “do whatcha gotta do” to make yourself happy.

Namaste
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Always Expect the Unexpected!

If you personally know me or have read my book, you would know that my daily life’s adventures are anything but the “norm.” At times, I even say “WTF” and doubt the obvious. But then, I re-focus and know that this is how my world “rolls.”   So I get over it, get into the flow of life, and enjoy the ride. And quite honestly, I love it! I never know what to expect; but I trust it’s always for the greater good.  Furthermore, I know that my purpose is to share these inspirational stories with anyone who wants to listen. My intention is that they may offer a glimmer of hope, be a source of motivation or stimulate a laugh. And I’m finally at the stage in life when I don’t take things so personally (but, hey…I’m still work in progress.) My mom always told me that my big mouth may get me into trouble someday, and… she was correct! I loved that woman! :)}

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“My Daily MOJO”

Before I get out of bed in the morning, I do my best to remember to say, “God, please show me how/where you want me to be of service today”…and then I listen, and pay attention to where I’m being directed.   No matter what, I trust that I’ll be guided throughout the day. I also know, from personal experience, that whatever or whoever “shows up” is a reflection of me. And the Universe never ceases to amaze me.

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A few days ago, I walked into a coffee shop to eat, drink and write; and randomly sat next to a gentleman who was preparing for a job interview. We struck up a conversation and I began asking him questions that his future employer may ask, such as: “What can you do for me? What are your skill sets? Why should I hire you?”  I also mentioned that when he walks into his interview he needs to be confident and “KNOW his $h%T!!”  Own it!!  And try not to come from a place of ego and entitlement. To be driven by his soul and being of service to others. And through setting this intention, doors may open unlike anything his mind could have ever imagined.”  He replied, “Yes, ma’am” and gave me a big hug. I, then, ended the conversation with, “Be yourself and whatever happens, happens,” and walked out…

So today, I walked into a different coffee shop –and who was sitting there??? Yep! You guessed it! The same dude I met two days prior!! (I know…do- do- do- do.) I approached him to ask if he had gotten the job. He looked down, “Nope. They didn’t hire me. I have every qualification. I have the experience. They need to hire 75 people. I’m a hard worker. I love people. I just don’t understand what I did wrong. I needed this job so badly.”  And then he began going into his “story” of why he didn’t get the job and started coming up with reasons why they didn’t hire him.

And then these words fell out of my mouth. (I couldn’t help myself.)

I said, “Whoa. Whoa. Whoa.  If you are going to make up a story about why you didn’t get the position, it needs to sound a helluva lot better than the one I’m hearing right now! The truth is is that the “perfect” situation will come along at the right time. God didn’t want you to have that job or you would have gotten it!   And maybe, just maybe, He has something better in store for you. More money. Better work environment, etc.  And besides, this situation may be your lesson in patience—and a negative attitude isn’t going to get you anywhere.” He sat down and replied, “You’re right. God has a bigger, better plan for me.  I’m going to trust in that. “OK good”, I said.  And then I continued to spill coffee all over the table… (yeah, that was awesome)

One minute later (and I’m not exaggerating) his phone rang. It was someone he’d interviewed with over a month ago and they had finally gotten around to calling him to say, “He made the cut. He got the job!” I could barely believe my ears either, and yes, I was listening.

He got off the phone, looked at me and said, “They want me to be there at 11am today. This is unbelievable. I have no words. This is my dream job!” And I said, “Yep. There are no words. So count your blessings and get your butt there on time. “ I was so happy for him that I began crying!!

He asked, “Before I go, can we say a prayer together?” I said, “Absolutely! I’ll take every prayer that I can get!”

It was truly one of those experiences that I’ll never forget. This situation added more validation on how the unexpected can “show up” when you’re open to infinite possibilities and can get out of your own way. Fun stuff!! Namaste 🙂

“God gave us two hands. One to receive with, and the other one to Give.” ~ Billy Graham

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A Simple Step for Infusing your Life with a Little Bit of Magic

I’ve always been fascinated with the classical fairy tale of Cinderella.  Maybe it’s because as a 6th grader, I was chosen to play the lead role of being Cinderella in the school play; or perhaps it’s because I love the idea of enchanted castles and being swept away by prince charming.   Regardless of whether or not these moments in time do come true—love, hope and happiness is the stuff dreams are made of. 

 Over the weekend, I decided to sit through the latest rendition of this magical tale.  As I was being drawn into the life of a princess and the thought of never never land,  I heard “this” inspiring message that moves beyond living happily ever after.   

 You see, when Cinderella was a young girl, her mother passed away.  But prior to her death, she gave her daughter instructions on how to live her life.  She said, “Have courage and be kind.” 

 WOW! Imagine that! Have courage and be kind—Powerful words for building a magical kingdom based upon grace.

Courage is a necessary virtue when staring directly into the eyes of fear or embarking on an unpredictable venture.  The act of “being” courageous furthers your quest of internal exploration in gaining a deeper understanding of Self; and challenges you to heal unresolved hurts and move beyond limited perceptions with curiosity and an open-heart.  Courage is the binding agent that fortifies your vision with optimism, while remaining diligent when doing the task at hand.  

 As the famous quote states, “Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore.” — Lord Chesterfield

 It takes courage to apply unwavering strength in rising above today’s obstacles and making a life change.  It takes courage to be kind to people who may not have earned such a loving gesture.  And it takes courage to stand up and speak your truth, while setting an example for those who seem to need it the most.

 So, as your life candidly unfolds while traveling down your path in the pursuit of happiness—remember to demonstrate courage and to be kind. Deciding to BE BOLD when confronting your greatest challenge is a courageous action–hardly established by those with the faint of heart.  

With the inner knowing that you are a spiritual being having a human (and charming) experience, it’s possible to walk in faith; roar with courage; and have the awareness that each encounter is a stepping stone for uncovering the gift of being your Highest Self.  The simplest form of generosity may be the force of nature needed to transform another’s pit of darkness into a beacon of light; and in return, it may be the guiding factor in fulfilling your personal destiny. The choice is yours.  Exemplify magnificence in every situation; and trust that anything is feasible when you BELIEVE  in just a little bit of magic. 🙂 

Inspirational Message ~ “In the midst of fear, step into Faith”

If you happen to find yourself getting caught up in the fear of the unknown, remind yourself to slow down, take a deep breath and feel the rhythm of your heart.  

 Your heart knows the truth.  The truth that you have everything you need.  YOU are whole, wise and wealthy beyond measure.

 Stop. Center yourself and allow the beat of your “drum” to guide you in a clear direction when taking the next step.  You don’t need to know the “big picture” of what your life is suppose to BE, but you will know how to take the next step in divine time.  

 Quiet your mind. Breathe deeply and BE grateful for what you have today.