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Relationships! How to gracefully “get through” a Change with your significant other.

Change in life is inevitable, but remembering to “Unconditionally Love yourself and others” through the process can directly influence the end result.  You ALWAYS have the ability to uplift the spirit of those around you through offering the smallest gestures and making conscious choices.

{I’ve not only “lived” these words (and some lessons learned the hard way) but I’ve also watched them “play out” in the lives of those around me…..recognizing that the message that we teach is often the Universe’s reminder of our own consciousness.}

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Conversation with the lady sitting next to me at breakfast.

Me: Big week ahead of you?

Lady: Yes. My divorce will hopefully be final. I’ve spent a ton of money on court costs. My soon to be ex-husband is such a jerk. He’s so irritating. We argue about everything. Who knows how he will act in courtroom. Probably like a a$$, as usual. I’m so angry about it all.

Me: I understand. Change sucks and can be painful while you’re in the middle of it.

Lady: How do you handle a situation when you just want it to end?

Me: Well.. I’ve tried 2 approaches. Both being successful depending how you perceive it. The first approach was the: Anger, resentment, guilt and shame approach which was a waste of time, silly and worthless. It didn’t get me anywhere— except more suffering. Then I tried the second approach: Loving my way through it. Loving myself, the other person, and the entirely of the situation. I resisted nothing. I learned to accept the way it is. But that doesn’t mean I didn’t speak up for myself. But with each step, I moved with conscious courage, and I no longer allowed myself to operate from a “victim mentality;” therefore, allowed me to stand strong on my own 2 feet—plus I took responsibility for 100% of my behaviors.

So in my opinion, if you really want to “get back” at your husband— love him like never before. Authentic, pure and unconditional. He won’t know what happened to him, or you!!! And when YOU no longer stoop to his level, the energy that you are emanating is really the best revenge. Try it. All YOU have to do is to be willing to dig into the depths of your own heart…

Lady: Well…. but…..that seems like it would be impossible for me to do.

Me: Yeah.. I understand. And it might be beyond your mind’s ability at this point in time. So allow for your inner Light to do “the work,” and you focus on staying centered and getting your ego/personality out of the way. The Light can be much more efficient when you’re not setting up barriers that prevent the Essence from transforming your life. But you will have to do your share which is to intensely hold the Presence in the moment. Hey…I didn’t say it will be easy, but what I am saying is that it can be done if you are willing .

Lady: I will be all alone in the court room

Me: No you won’t

Lady: What do you mean?

Me: Take God with you.

Lady: I can do that?

Me: Why wouldn’t you? The absolute truth is that God is everywhere, and in everything. He’s the best resource YOU will ever have in YOUR LIFE…just ask. And use intention when you ask for help. And then, again, do your best to get “out of the way” and trust in the process. When you infuse Unconditional Love into any situation, it will always work out in your favor.

Lady: Sitting quietly …. I will.

Me: My breakfast is awesome …..

Namaste:)

Always Expect the Unexpected!

If you personally know me or have read my book, you would know that my daily life’s adventures are anything but the “norm.” At times, I even say “WTF” and doubt the obvious. But then, I re-focus and know that this is how my world “rolls.”   So I get over it, get into the flow of life, and enjoy the ride. And quite honestly, I love it! I never know what to expect; but I trust it’s always for the greater good.  Furthermore, I know that my purpose is to share these inspirational stories with anyone who wants to listen. My intention is that they may offer a glimmer of hope, be a source of motivation or stimulate a laugh. And I’m finally at the stage in life when I don’t take things so personally (but, hey…I’m still work in progress.) My mom always told me that my big mouth may get me into trouble someday, and… she was correct! I loved that woman! :)}

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“My Daily MOJO”

Before I get out of bed in the morning, I do my best to remember to say, “God, please show me how/where you want me to be of service today”…and then I listen, and pay attention to where I’m being directed.   No matter what, I trust that I’ll be guided throughout the day. I also know, from personal experience, that whatever or whoever “shows up” is a reflection of me. And the Universe never ceases to amaze me.

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A few days ago, I walked into a coffee shop to eat, drink and write; and randomly sat next to a gentleman who was preparing for a job interview. We struck up a conversation and I began asking him questions that his future employer may ask, such as: “What can you do for me? What are your skill sets? Why should I hire you?”  I also mentioned that when he walks into his interview he needs to be confident and “KNOW his $h%T!!”  Own it!!  And try not to come from a place of ego and entitlement. To be driven by his soul and being of service to others. And through setting this intention, doors may open unlike anything his mind could have ever imagined.”  He replied, “Yes, ma’am” and gave me a big hug. I, then, ended the conversation with, “Be yourself and whatever happens, happens,” and walked out…

So today, I walked into a different coffee shop –and who was sitting there??? Yep! You guessed it! The same dude I met two days prior!! (I know…do- do- do- do.) I approached him to ask if he had gotten the job. He looked down, “Nope. They didn’t hire me. I have every qualification. I have the experience. They need to hire 75 people. I’m a hard worker. I love people. I just don’t understand what I did wrong. I needed this job so badly.”  And then he began going into his “story” of why he didn’t get the job and started coming up with reasons why they didn’t hire him.

And then these words fell out of my mouth. (I couldn’t help myself.)

I said, “Whoa. Whoa. Whoa.  If you are going to make up a story about why you didn’t get the position, it needs to sound a helluva lot better than the one I’m hearing right now! The truth is is that the “perfect” situation will come along at the right time. God didn’t want you to have that job or you would have gotten it!   And maybe, just maybe, He has something better in store for you. More money. Better work environment, etc.  And besides, this situation may be your lesson in patience—and a negative attitude isn’t going to get you anywhere.” He sat down and replied, “You’re right. God has a bigger, better plan for me.  I’m going to trust in that. “OK good”, I said.  And then I continued to spill coffee all over the table… (yeah, that was awesome)

One minute later (and I’m not exaggerating) his phone rang. It was someone he’d interviewed with over a month ago and they had finally gotten around to calling him to say, “He made the cut. He got the job!” I could barely believe my ears either, and yes, I was listening.

He got off the phone, looked at me and said, “They want me to be there at 11am today. This is unbelievable. I have no words. This is my dream job!” And I said, “Yep. There are no words. So count your blessings and get your butt there on time. “ I was so happy for him that I began crying!!

He asked, “Before I go, can we say a prayer together?” I said, “Absolutely! I’ll take every prayer that I can get!”

It was truly one of those experiences that I’ll never forget. This situation added more validation on how the unexpected can “show up” when you’re open to infinite possibilities and can get out of your own way. Fun stuff!! Namaste 🙂

“God gave us two hands. One to receive with, and the other one to Give.” ~ Billy Graham

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Spring Forward!

It’s  that time of year, again.  Spring!  The season bringing renewal, growth,  and expansion.  So, if you are ready for a new adventure to “blossom” and a great beginning to unfold, then become consciously aware of the sabotaging beliefs and thoughts that may be polluting your mind and impeding your SHINE.   

If you are willing to take a good look throughout your history, you may notice a common thread of undesirable behaviors that are continuously fueling your life’s story.  It will take A LOT of courage and a certain amount of risk when confronting patterns that are no longer serving you… changing them…and then LIVING it!

However, on the other side of doing “the work” is a profound appreciation you’ll gain for yourself and others.   You may even open the door; shedding the “light” on a possibility that wasn’t available until you’ve made it a priority to emotionally “Free” yourself and nourish your soul.      

 Cheers to planting healthy seeds,

Angela 🙂