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The “To-do” List–The 4 Steps that Transformed my Life

“If you want to make God laugh tell Him about your plans” ~ Woody Allen

I often share this particular story about one of the most difficult times in my life when I’m teaching a workshop or speaking at a live event. This experience isn’t something I’m proud of, but it was the catalyst that has landed me to where I am today—as a spiritual teacher, best-selling author, speaker and one of the happiest people I know. Looking back on this situation with the wisdom I’ve acquired since then, I could’ve handled this ordeal quite a bit differently—-and hindsight is always 20/20. So as my journey continues towards understanding how the spiritual laws of the Universe continue to govern our existence, I can honestly say that a Higher Power is generous when providing valuable experiences required to awaken our hearts, connect with our internal wisdom and heal our soul if we choose to do so.

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As long as you’re breathing, you’re perpetually learning, growing, healing and expanding into a deeper Consciousness.  Each path is unique— and within your personal journey into discovering who you are, your heart and soul will be provided with unwavering strength and the courage to live your highest expression when you fully allow Guidance to lead you on a moment to moment basis. Your life will either expand or contract based upon the consistency of your thoughts and the choices you’ll make. As a wise teacher once mentioned to me when I was seeking spiritual solutions amid utter confusion, “Take advice that works for you and leave the rest. This is your life.”

What’s your Story??

We all have a “story” and there is value in your story because your story has assembled the life you’re living today; whether it be good, bad or the ugly. So in relying my personal thoughts, and with the utmost respect and humility, “You may not have been dealt the ideal ‘hand of cards’ throughout your life, but you do get to choose how you wish to play them from this day forward.” You can either use your history as a stepping stone to cultivate your success or you can permit your past to greatly influence your relationships, your career and your overall state of emotional health and well-being. History has the tendency to repeat itself; and unless you take the time to reflect, contemplate and heal; yes heal THYSELF, chances are, you will unconsciously fall back into habitual patterns of self-sabotage. It’s one thing to become cognizant of your behaviors and it’s another to connect with the seat of your soul and heal your life. “To know yourself is to heal Thyself.”

 

My Story: It’s time to “wake up!”

As I was unconsciously moving through the motions of life; unbeknownst to me, the Universe had other plans….

“I was driven to the edge of self-destruction only to awaken to the realization that the key to happiness, peace and success exists in who I decide to become.”

For 3 1/2 years, I was in a relationship with someone who was my greatest teacher. I learned everything that I wanted within a partnership and everything I didn’t. And then the day came when my soul was sick and tired of being sick and tired, and my life warranted a Divine intervention.

No doubt about it, I was forced to confront mastering the lesson of “Letting Go”—of EVERYTHING. I had NO THING in the external world that proved I was or would be successful, ever again. My circumstances were: the loss of my business, my pets, (except Trigger, my horse) and my relationship–all of which died (literally and figuratively) within a few months of each other and I was forced to practice a central concept in the Buddhist philosophy known as detachment.

As I was getting into the bathtub one morning my eyes caught my body’s reflection in mirror….and I stopped. I hesitated because it dawned on me that the image I was witnessing felt as if I was looking at a complete stranger. That’s right. It was my face, but somehow, someway, I wondered “Who is that person?” It was apparent that I’d forgotten who I was, what I stood for and how to speak my truth until…..

While sitting in the tub I began to feel a roaring fire beginning to brew in the pit of my stomach. My gut was twisting and turning and within minutes I felt myself being launched out of the water. It felt as if I were being pushed and the words that I had suppressed for years required a voice. I was on a mission to say something, not knowing what, but found myself marching upstairs to have a conversation with my boyfriend (now my ex.) I looked at him and said, “I’m leaving.” Short and simple, right? And he replied, “Great. I’ll help you pack your bags.” (Please allow me to add, this “grand finale” happened after years of endless arguments, tears and heartache. We were both finally aware that our relationship wasn’t meant to “go the distance” and our time was up!)

With my car packed and $10 bucks to my name, I drove away from my house and thought to myself, “Where in the hell am I going to go now?” Sure, I could have chosen to make a few phone calls and ask for help from family and friends, but this time I needed to figure out these  “issues” on my own and refocus on my priorities; but first, re-identify what those were!

I was mad. Mad at myself. Mad at my partner, but more importantly, I was mad at God because I felt like He no longer loved me. I’m not going to lie. I threw a temper tantrum and began to cuss and swear like nobody’s business as I was driving towards the city park to pitch a tent and spend the night. Did this life altering choice mean I’d be living “homeless” for a day, a month or a year, perhaps? I didn’t know—- but I was willing to take my chances and pay the consequences.

As the reality of being “homeless” began to set in….

I started to cry uncontrollably…

I pulled my car over to the side of the road ..…

The tears continued…

And then…

The energy in the car began to change. It felt as if the world had stopped spinning. Perfect stillness. The “essence” was soothing, dense and extremely Present—and a sense of peace rushed over my entire body…

I re-started my car and proceeded to drive forward….

A few seconds later…

A powerful Force took control of my steering wheel….

And within minutes, I found myself parked in front of a house that looked familiar, but unsure of whose it was.…

I walked to the front door and knocked…

A woman answered. And to my surprise it was my very first client in my healing business who had always told me, “If I ever needed a place to hang my hat, I’d always be welcome in her home.”

So there I was, in her house, and beginning my life over again…(for the 3rd time)

Sitting in a room with two twin beds I began having a conversation with God. I asked, “What can I do to change my life?”

And these instructions were undeniably conveyed:

1. You are going to take total responsibly for healing yourself and your life.
2. You are going to make peace with your past. You are going to see everyone as your teacher    and consciously apply the wisdom you’ve gained from each experience.
3. You are going to be grateful for your life.
4. And then, you are going to write a book and share your experiences.

Ugh…right???

I replied, “I’ll do it, but I need proof that I’m actually on the ‘right’ path. So here’s my request:”

1.To have my book placed on the shelves in the local book stores and Mile Hi Church.
2. To be on the bestsellers list.
3. To get Dr. Wayne Dyer’s endorsement.

So from “this” place of total surrender and a willingness to listen and act, I was able to consciously rebuild my life from the ground -up and the inside- out.

Did the process of working on myself and writing a book happen overnight? Heck no! It was a course in demonstrating Love, compassion, forgiveness, and kindness to myself and others; and then I was given the opportunity to press the “RINSE & REPEAT” button and do it over again and again!

To this day, I’ve finally come to the understanding that the cycle of healing never ceases, but the process may become less arduous when putting your ego aside and allowing God to lead.

During my healing transformation, I spent a lot of time being alone and became discerning on how I shared my time and energy. I allowed myself to “work” through the myriad of emotions that demanded attention; and from that point I was made well aware that filling any void with a quick fix was nonsense.

I began to change my life through facing my fears and shedding the light on every single one of those suckers! It was no secret that the emotions hidden deep within my subconscious mind were keeping me distant from the “things” that I truly desired for myself—-happiness, peace and inner freedom. Truth be told, there wasn’t anything fun about confronting myself in the mirror, but since then, the rewards (internally & externally) have been priceless— AND my “3 goals” have been accomplished.

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So now, when a client comes into my office and says, “How do I change my life? My world is falling apart. My relationship is over. My business isn’t working,” whatever their story is— my response is, “Great. You are finally at a place in your life when you’re willing to listen to the sacred voice within your soul and honor yourself. Let’s get to work on healing YOU!”

So if you shall ever find yourself in the place of feeling “stuck” and/or hopeless and without a clue on where to begin, remember ….

We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” ~ Albert Einstein

Stop. Chill out. Command your mind to be silent. Breathe. It’s nearly impossible to hear Wisdom in the midst of chaos. And then…from a “space of calm,” ask for Guidance.

Trust that the Light will shine upon your next step…..

Be willing to take the next step…..

Namaste,

Angela:)

P.S. My new goals: (And being flexible with how I achieve them:))

  1. Publish children’s books: #TriggerTails …
  2. Complete my 2nd “inspirational” book…
  3. Continue to feel GOOD and BE Happy!!

BTW….Did I mention I want to meet Oprah, also!!??? 🙂

Relationships! How to gracefully “get through” a Change with your significant other.

Change in life is inevitable, but remembering to “Unconditionally Love yourself and others” through the process can directly influence the end result.  You ALWAYS have the ability to uplift the spirit of those around you through offering the smallest gestures and making conscious choices.

{I’ve not only “lived” these words (and some lessons learned the hard way) but I’ve also watched them “play out” in the lives of those around me…..recognizing that the message that we teach is often the Universe’s reminder of our own consciousness.}

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Conversation with the lady sitting next to me at breakfast.

Me: Big week ahead of you?

Lady: Yes. My divorce will hopefully be final. I’ve spent a ton of money on court costs. My soon to be ex-husband is such a jerk. He’s so irritating. We argue about everything. Who knows how he will act in courtroom. Probably like a a$$, as usual. I’m so angry about it all.

Me: I understand. Change sucks and can be painful while you’re in the middle of it.

Lady: How do you handle a situation when you just want it to end?

Me: Well.. I’ve tried 2 approaches. Both being successful depending how you perceive it. The first approach was the: Anger, resentment, guilt and shame approach which was a waste of time, silly and worthless. It didn’t get me anywhere— except more suffering. Then I tried the second approach: Loving my way through it. Loving myself, the other person, and the entirely of the situation. I resisted nothing. I learned to accept the way it is. But that doesn’t mean I didn’t speak up for myself. But with each step, I moved with conscious courage, and I no longer allowed myself to operate from a “victim mentality;” therefore, allowed me to stand strong on my own 2 feet—plus I took responsibility for 100% of my behaviors.

So in my opinion, if you really want to “get back” at your husband— love him like never before. Authentic, pure and unconditional. He won’t know what happened to him, or you!!! And when YOU no longer stoop to his level, the energy that you are emanating is really the best revenge. Try it. All YOU have to do is to be willing to dig into the depths of your own heart…

Lady: Well…. but…..that seems like it would be impossible for me to do.

Me: Yeah.. I understand. And it might be beyond your mind’s ability at this point in time. So allow for your inner Light to do “the work,” and you focus on staying centered and getting your ego/personality out of the way. The Light can be much more efficient when you’re not setting up barriers that prevent the Essence from transforming your life. But you will have to do your share which is to intensely hold the Presence in the moment. Hey…I didn’t say it will be easy, but what I am saying is that it can be done if you are willing .

Lady: I will be all alone in the court room

Me: No you won’t

Lady: What do you mean?

Me: Take God with you.

Lady: I can do that?

Me: Why wouldn’t you? The absolute truth is that God is everywhere, and in everything. He’s the best resource YOU will ever have in YOUR LIFE…just ask. And use intention when you ask for help. And then, again, do your best to get “out of the way” and trust in the process. When you infuse Unconditional Love into any situation, it will always work out in your favor.

Lady: Sitting quietly …. I will.

Me: My breakfast is awesome …..

Namaste:)

The advice I was given when having a Conversation with God–“Turn on the Light”

Last week I was invited to speak at a private healing retreat to give an “In-Spirit-ational” talk and teach a half-day workshop. As I prepared to share an array of pragmatic skills and/or techniques I’ve acquired from studying with gurus from around the world; I also have a clear understanding that often times during a conversation, I’ll be inspired to contribute a story about my “Extra-ordinary” teachings that have provided me with valuable insights.

During the lecture, one of the participants stood up to ask the question, “Why can’t I change my life? I’ve hired the best coaches. I’ve read all the spiritual books. I’ve tried positive thinking—and nothing works! I’m out of hope. My business sucks, my marriage is over, and to top it off, I crashed my motorcycle last week. So what can I do to fix my life??”

In that moment, there wasn’t a hesitation in my mind that this man was experiencing a tremendous amount of pain —knowing he was in the midst of self-transformation. He was being given the opportunity to master inner aspects of himself that were manifesting in his external world. This was his golden opportunity to “dig” deep into the vastness of his heart —grow as a spiritual being having a human experience and heal his life from the inside out.

I could feel this man’s angst. I know because I’ve been there, too. There was a time when my life was a complete train wreck and there wasn’t anything comfortable about feeling uncomfortable in my own skin. But in retrospect, this was the “perfect storm” for me to become aware of the choices I was consciously or unconsciously creating. These were the moments for me to get brutally honest with myself, my life, and build an unwavering relationship with the Source of Truth.

But before I responded to him, I took a deep breath, made eye contact and said, “You might want to sit down for this. I have an “out-of-the-box” encounter that I’d like to share you. Are you willing to have an open mind and listen?” He nodded yes and proceeded to sit.

I then said, “I may not have your answer but what I do know is this: When your life is no longer working for you, beating yourself up or pointing fingers ridden with guilt, anger and resentment is NEVER the answer. But what WILL raise you out of this conundrum is to add more “Light” to your unanswered questions and greatest fears.  In fact, add more authenticity. More integrity. More Unconditional Love. Add more God into everything. Choosing to pour these essential ingredients into your life will energetically shift the frequency of who and what you attract; therefore, changing the quality of your daily experiences.

****And… I would like to share with you a personal, mystical experience that was my “wake-up” call in knowing this.  During one of the darkest moments in my life, literally, I spent more time ruminating in fear, and in victim mode than I did dwelling in Love and gratitude—-and my attitude was about to get an “Inspired” adjustment.****

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This happened one morning while I sitting at the foot of my bed having one of my many conversations with God…. (Yes, I talk to God.)

God: Are you going to open the curtains this morning?

Me: Nope. I’m going to choose to sit in the dark.

God: Are you sure?

Me: Yes.

End of conversation.

I then stood up, took a shower, got dressed, walked down the stairs and out the front door.

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8pm that evening:

I arrived at home after a long day of running in circles being a “chaotic busy body.” As I ventured up the stairs and into my bedroom, right before my eyes was an “Awe-inspiring Ta-Da” moment! Every light was turned on full-blast, and beaming towards the middle of the room. Yes, I know, crazy, huh? But Truth stopped me dead in my tracks and humbled me like no other.

Me: (In my best grumpy voice) “Really? What is this about?”

God: “We thought we would add light to your situation.”

End of story.”

This Magnificent experience was a game changer for me because I was being forced to shift my way of thinking, followed up with mindful actions. My given challenge was to shed more light where there was a shadow of a doubt. Period.

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After I shared this story in the workshop, of course, there were a few participants who looked at me with a stare of disbelief; but then there were those who didn’t. The Light turned on.

As my mentor once told me, “Thank God for those of us who are cracked because we are the ones who let the Light in.”

Namaste,

Angela

P. S. If you should ever find yourself sitting in a room full of darkness, the answer is: Turn on the Light. 🙂

Freedom, Inner Happiness & Peace begins with YOU!

If I can offer one piece of inspirational  advice about what I’ve learned on my personal journey seeking inner happiness and peace; I’d offer these words of encouragement: “Know Thyself.”  What is your modus operandi?  How do you behave when no one else is looking?  What are the consistent thoughts the pervade through your mind? Are you willing to STAND UP for what you believe in?

What you believe to be true about yourself and life in general, the external world will begin to magnify your ideals.  Therefore;  if you desire to transform your life then it’s essential to “dig deep” into your heart of heart’s, and from the core of who you are, graciously begin to uncover the sabotaging behaviors that may be impeding a vibrant future. Without a doubt, the emotional baggage you’ve harbored for years has a way of rising to the surface when you least expect it; and before you know it,  you’ve manifested your “new” reality. This is a pivotal point in your life because standing on this precipice of change is when you can transpose the inner chaos into a powerful beacon of light. You are a spiritual being having a human experience and your mission is to love and accept ALL OF YOU —excluding NO THING, and manifest the life you desire.

There is the fine art to mastering yourself. No one ever said this process would be easy; so you’ll have to “pull yourself up by your boot straps” and move forward with integrity, kindness, and gratitude.  The negative, critical mind chatter will have to cease and you begin to approach your life that will embrace the path of healing.

So when you are ready to climb into your emotional closet and set yourself free from perpetual judgments and self-limiting beliefs—you’ll be well on your way to knowing happiness and inner peace.  As the Universal Law states, “As within, so without.”

Without hesitation, your “job” to soul-fully living your life’s purpose is to create opportunities of abundance while capitalizing on your strengths and embracing your weaknesses so that you can move forth with deep appreciation for life’s experiences. Take the knowledge you have gained from previous situations and translate the lessons learned into wisdom. Continue on your journey in dignity and grace; focusing on making wise and conscious choices, everyday.

Understand this: The energy you emanate has a rippling effect on those around you. When you “lighten the load” on your heart, and begin to notice the many faces of miracles that are surrounding you—you’ll be amazed on how your life has shifted while empowering and changing the world around you.

Namaste 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

An Inspired note from Spirit

“Self confidence, self-esteem, strength, and courage is NOT given to anyone. It is earned through self-reflection, growing-up, confronting your own inner demons..and taking ownership of healing YOUR life. True success is attained through realising your own Divinity; rising above the false sense of Self, and demonstrating compassion to those who need it the most. Life isn’t easy…but you can choose on how you are going to “show up” for yourself, as well as, for others.”